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General · 11th January 2015
Margaret Verschuur
Compassionate End of Life Planning. Boyd’s Funeral Services is sponsoring this series of 11 workshops to guide you through the maze. Margaret Verschuur will facilitate the series, providing an environment of support and safety. Each group is interactive and limited to 12 participants. Must pre-register; Call Margaret 285-3557.

Experts in their field will come and give a presentation, as well as answer your questions;
Stewart Carstairs from CR Lawyers will give a presentation and answer your questions about wills, power of attorney, and being an executor; Cathy Voth, MNP will outline some of the important considerations for estate planning and minimizing taxes; Sandy Poelvoorde, Boyd’s Funeral Services on funeral planning; Deana Longland on insurance, Jacqueline Spies on hospice, Betty Doak on advanced care directives, and Carrie Bahm, Singing Waters on journeying with death and dying.

Workshops will be held at Quadra Elementary School each Thursday from 10:45 to 12:30 starting Jan 15. Cost $55 or sliding scale.

We all know that end of life planning is necessary, and kind to those we leave behind. It’s also very easy to procrastinate!

“I’ll make time to do that later,” is our most common excuse, secretly hoping our honest and sincere intentions will keep death at bay. Some of us sense that it will be a difficult process, and aren’t sure we are up to the task. And of course there are far more compelling things to do with our precious and finite time – activities that are fun and upbeat. For many of us even thinking about all that is involved feels overwhelming – it is difficult to know where to begin.

Working closely with a funeral home has made it clear to me that people don’t die when it is convenient. Death usually comes uninvited and unwelcome – and turns our lives upside-down and inside out. Anyone who has worked in a funeral home knows that those who have had the courage and taken the time to do end of life planning have given a huge gift to the loved ones they leave behind. The sadness and loss are present, but having the path laid out well means time and attention can be directed to the grieving heart, not to the countless confusing decisions that need to be made.

I can hear my mother saying, “Dying hasn’t changed. Why make it so complicated?” Perhaps dying hasn’t changed, but living has. With our medical advancements, people live longer but question at what point life no longer becomes worth living for them. Finances have become more complicated; compare what is in your wallet to your grandfathers (your grandmother likely didn’t own a wallet). Communities and churches once took responsibility for burying their dead. People travel more, own more – even relationships have become more complicated.

As it becomes more important than ever to plan for end of life, the task also becomes more daunting. It takes courage to say “yes, I will do this now,” and for those willing to step into it, there is a path.

For more information or to register call Margaret at 285-3557.